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Establishing a positive relationship with your body – exercise (offer to Slimming world etc locally)
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Establishing a positive relationship with your body…reflective practice
I have been using this technique with my clients, and also personally whilst meeting my own challenges in reclaiming my body after two pregnancies within three years.
This started me thinking about the importance of integrating the body in our development.
We often hear about the term Mind/Body/Soul suggesting the development of all three elements in tandem, but what I have observed frequently in practice is that many people are actually up in the headspace, working in the “Mind” and “Soul” parts, but are missing out the “Body” completely.
This even occurs, when, at some level, something about the physical self may be a cause of deep unhappiness, possibly connected to a limiting belief.
This can frustrate attempts to change habits and behaviours, to a more healthful response even though you may know or feel you “should” do something.
The following is an exercise to help you look at accepting your body as it is now, to help you honour this and treat yourself with loving kindness at all times. This is including the things that you may wish to change in the future.
Sitting quietly, and comfortably, possibly with a pen and paper nearby, ask yourself the following questions…
What do I like most about my body right now?
What do I appreciate about my body in this moment?
What achievements has my body enabled for me?
If I scan my body, starting slowly at the toes, working up through the feet, to my calves, my knees, my thighs, my hips, my stomach, my chest, my shoulders, my arms, my fingertips, coming back up to my neck, my head, my crown, how do I feel at each point?
(Spend 30 seconds mentally scanning each body part, observing any sensations…. Images…. colours …textures …..or feelings that may come to you. It may help to jot down anything that particularly stands out.)
If there are any parts that are feeling tense, or tender, or just niggling, simply observe this.
And ask yourself…..
What may this be trying to express for me?
Was there a time when this part worked well and effortlessly?
When might that have been?
Can I know, is it a possibility, that part of me is OK?
That I am really OK with my body responding by having this pain/niggle/whatever?
Can I agree that this has served its purpose now?
Or do I want to hang on to this issue?
Breathe in deeply and imagine inhaling a healing light, then sending out this healing light to the area that needs this most.
And ask yourself….
Can I affirm to myself and to my body that I am now ready to move on without the pain/niggle/whatever?
Do I still feel anger or negativity towards my body for having this issue, is it possible that I can now choose to forgive this, and see that my body needs and deserves kindness and respect?
If not, tune into this and come back and repeat the exercise from time to time…but for now, move on to the step below…
And ask yourself….
Can I quietly express gratitude to my body for all that it has done for me so far in my life…..?
…..this may be the lungs supporting your breathing, your brain for enabling you to appreciate beauty or create beautiful things, your legs for carrying you, your whole body for bearing you a child.
This may feel strange at first, but go with me on this….humour me, you have nothing to lose and better health and happiness to gain!
Take a moment to reflect and then ask yourself….
Can I think of 5 things that I would like to make a gift of, to my body, to show my appreciation this far?
These may be things like…
- better nutrition
- more exercise
- less toxic substances
- to receive a massage or facial (this can be done at home, so needn’t be expensive)
- Etc etc, there are no restrictions to what you decide to gift to yourself and your body.
And ask yourself again, can I now come out of this exercise, and do something to bring me back into my physical space?
Take a stretch, have a dance, go for a walk but take a break for 5 minutes to bring yourself back into your physicality. Then come back to your quiet place.
Take your blank sheet of paper and create for yourself, as a mindmap or list, 20 healthy and positive attributes that you want for your body in the future. These are best stated in single words, not framed as “goals”. So for example, you might choose …..
….and so on until you have your meaningful list….
…..If you want to go beyond 20 attributes, that’s great and go for it…..
…..now, again, as always, once you have this amazing list, put it somewhere meaningful for you, perhaps copy it to your diary, or create a vision board if you are feeling creative today…..
…..just make sure you can access this to remind yourself of what you have chosen for yourself today.